Trusting the Journey

Recently, three friends moved to the Bay Area. Each believed they were coming for a specific reason, only to find that what they came for did not materialize. Each of the friends dealt differently with the disappointment. One felt betrayed. One got mad, and the third saw life as a continuing adventure.

The first person saw herself victimized by unfairness. “Just my luck!” she would say, projecting a cloud of gloom and victimization. She became passive and withdrawn, waiting for something outside of herself to make everything right. She was unable to accept what happened, and would not take action to do something different. She spent her time nursing her hurt.

The second person assigned blame to others for things not working as he expected. He was unwilling to look at his lack of planning as part of the problem, and took out his anger by attacking others. He did not ask what  was to be learned from the situation, but continued to make decisions based on anger and emotional responses in the moment. As a result, he became reactive rather than pro-active and remained locked in the blame game. 

The third person realized that the reason she moved here was obviously not why she was here. She set about to find clues as to the purpose for being in the Bay Area, and began immersing herself in all the  personal growth activities she could find. She was open to possibilities, willing to extend herself to them, and as a result,  made incredible connections, achieving major breakthroughs within herself. She recently joined a spiritual community...something she always wanted to do, but thought could never happen. She trusted the journey, and although could have been equally or more disappointed than her two friends who at least have family and friends in this area, she is the one who believed that there is a greater plan unfolding, and that her requirement is to trust in the journey and pay attention to the clues..

I think this is an important example for us all. Everyone has major disappointments at one time or another, yet when we see life as an adventure, a wrong move becomes a right move, and we affirm ourselves and the bigger picture by finding the gift in the roadblock and the opportunity in the obstacle. The message is that we must trust the journey.

KJ